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Question:

This week I attended a prayer service with a difference. It was a Torah reading conducted entirely by women. Most were wearing tallises and kippas. I am from a more traditional background and found it unusual, but I think it's a good thing. Isn't is positive that women are participating more in their Judaism?

Answer:

I think it is fantastic that more women are exploring their Jewishness, and they should be encouraged in their thirst for Jewish connection. But to be honest, I don't understand how such a prayer service is feeding this thirst.

Either you believe Judaism is a G-d-given religion, or you believe it is man-made. Either way, it doesn't make sense for women to be doing what men do.

If Judaism is G-d-given, then its laws are absolute and cannot be changed. And they shouldn't be changed, because G-d knows what He is doing. If Judaism says that men wear tallises and read the Torah, and women don't, this is not unfair discrimination. Rather we were given different roles because G-d -- who created men and women differently -- knows what each needs for their spiritual fulfillment. G-d is not sexist.

Others say that Judaism is man-made and therefore its laws are changeable. According to this view, it would be fair to assume that Judaism discriminates against women, because the rules were made up by men who lived long before the call for women's rights was heard. All ancient cultures were unfair and oppressive, so why should a man-made Judaism be any different?

But if that is indeed the case, why would women want to adopt practices that were concocted by misogynistic men three thousand year ago? Are women really fulfilled by mimicking male practices? This seems to insult women rather than liberate them.

Either these practices are divinely ordained and should remain as they always were, or are human inventions and should be replaced.

I believe Judaism is divine. It doesn't need updating. It needs us to delve deeper to find its message for our times. We are blessed to live in a generation in which women are given every opportunity to discover for themselves what Judaism has to offer. Some women have adopted men's customs; but others have rediscovered a uniquely feminine spirituality within Jewish tradition that is fulfilling and powerful. I feel this approach is more true to the woman's soul.

Let the female voice of Judaism be heard. The world needs it now more than ever.


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Rabbi Aron Moss teaches Kabbalah, Talmud and practical Judaism in Sydney, Australia.


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Posted: June 27, 2007
YES
Could you guys come visit my "unaffiliated" shul, and give a talk??

You have hit the nail right on the head, and we desperately need your help if we are to survive much longer....the one-sidedness of the feminist movement at our shul is damaging the spirituality there....

And I agree with AviShag: Women becoming more like men is more demeaning to women than just being more feminine...but that statement would get my throat slit at my shul....

Posted By Anonymous, Fort Collins, CO

Posted: Mar 9, 2006
There is no Torah obligation to wear a Tallis while praying, nor is there a Torah obligation to wear a kippa. These are purely rabbinical enactments, and women were not exluded from them. How the Rabbi can call rabbinical enactments "God given" baffles me - are the rabbis God now??

How a local rabbi can argue with Torah sages (such as R' Moshe Feinstein, Rabbi J.B. Soleveitchik) regarding the permissibitly of these prayer groups (at the very least, theoretically) also baffles me.

Torah may be God given, but these customs most definitely were not, and if a woman feels closer to her God through these actions, who has the right to stop her?!
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: June 1, 2005
Women & "Optional" Mitzvos
Rav Moshe Feinstein said that she received this mitzvah at Sinai, and no one dare take it from her. He said the reason it is timebound and therefore optional for her is unknown, but surely more wonderful than any of our theories. He also said that if she does this for the wrong reason, it is no mitzvah at all.

Experience tells us that if she is doing this for the "wrong reason",she will quit soon enough. Because a tallis under your shirt makes you look fat, is hot (if you're for real you will wear wool), and tzitzis are a pain in the neck.

But if a woman (who is fulfilling her feminine role) takes on an optional mitzvah, understanding that she becomes obligated, and with the nod of an Orthodox rabbi or two, in a modest manner, avoiding arrogance (which is THE issue in Shulchan Aruch) then she is indeed doing a great mitzvah. She gets less of a reward -- but we are not supposed to do mitzvos for the reward.

Sometimes just KNOWING this much helps a great deal.

Posted By Avigayil Chana, Newton, MA/USA



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